posted by Sarah Chia
Last night, my husband and I used a Groupon at a local ice cream place to celebrate Valentine’s Day. We spent $5 on it and enjoyed some mammoth waffle cones to show each other our mammoth-sized love. As we sat there and talked, we reminisced that our dating life typically consists of coffee or ice cream dates, with the occasional Chinese meal thrown into the mix. And we realized that a small monthly date budget was the culprit. There aren’t many options out there for $20 a month. Throw in that we were using a church program for our free babysitting, and you have a sparse limit for both time and money.
So, we settled for cheap, quick dates.
But really… we weren’t settling at all. Because even though an expensive, fancy dinner is nice for me on occasion, it’s not what is truly valuable to us.
My husband and I have set our priorities, and those include having me stay out of the work force in order to home-educate our children. Now, I have a college education and experience both in the legal field and in teaching. I feel confident that I could go outside the home and earn a comfortable salary that, when added to my husband’s, would allow us a fair amount of luxury. For that matter, my husband could be more career-focused and climb the corporate ladder, resulting in more pay (and more hours).
But at what sacrifice? We say “no” to the extra money because we say “yes” to strong family relationships and challenging education.
We say “no” expensive dates because we say “yes” to more time together.
What are you saying “yes” to? What do you have to say “no” to in order to say “yes”?