Posted by Dave Bruno
Most of us do not buy stuff for the stuff. Hoarders do. But most of us are not hoarders. Most of us buy stuff for the sake of relationships, which is a right reason to buy stuff. That is, unless our expectations of what stuff can do for our relationships gets skewed.
Stuff is an excellent go between for healthy relationships. So long as we place the right expectations on what stuff can and cannot do for our relationships, stuff usually provides a benefit. If you doubt the importance of stuff, consider how awkward our relationships would be without stuff. Imagine a dinner party without a table, plates, silverware, or a restroom. Imagine working, whatever kind of work you do, without any tools: no tractor or no computer, no paper or no phone, no office or no Starbucks. Imagine going to church without clothes. We can all agree it is good to have stuff between us. Just try to think of a single scenario in which a relationship is better off without any stuff at all.
It is important to put stuff between us. Yet there is a point after which stuff only leads to jealousy, one upmanship, and other stumbling blocks that get in the way of close relationships. At that point, the stuff between us hinders our relationships.
Here is something to discuss: When do we cross the line, and the stuff between us gets in the way of our relationships instead of facilitating our relationships?